By Carla Helené Ezell
Everyone has dealt with it at one point or another. It's part of being innovative. It's part of being successful, no matter the venture. It's part of life. To what am I referring?
Sometimes people don't like you. That's okay because many people don't even like themselves. So they transfer their feelings of dissatisfaction onto you, instead of dealing with their own issues that are keeping them from living their best lives.
So what do you do when someone throws shade your way? Here are four ways to cope:
1. Remember that you were not created to make the world happy. You will never be able to do that anyway because you are not ice cream or pizza, so why bother trying? Other peoples' opinion of you is none of your business. What IS your business is how you handle YOURSELF! That's it!
2. Ignore the haters. Don't sully your good name and energy to set the record straight or even waste time giving the haters a piece of your essence. They are not worth the effort and you really should not have any time to grant them anyway because you are too busy building castles and progressing toward your goals. When you are focused on your goals, you will find that chasing down rumors and trying to correct unworthy peoples' opinions of you is a total waste.
3. Focus on YOUR tribe. Remember, life is too short and precious to spend it on two faced people. Save your energy for the people who act right toward you behind your back. Those are the people you should be focusing on. Those are the people building kingdoms right alongside you and cheering you on toward your wins. THEY are your tribe.
4. Keep it moving and keep it positive. You will never reach your destination if you stop to throw stones at every dog that barks! Keep your eye on your prize and in the midst of a shady grove, keep the sunshine in your smile bright. Some things are best said with an eye roll or a click of the ignore/block button. Your vibe is worth protecting. Keep it positive and keep it moving.
What are some ways you deal with shady people? Share in the comments below and lets discuss it. 💋
My name is Carla Helené. I am a cheeky naturalista, serial entrepreneur, speaker, educator and self love advocate who encourages women to embrace their truth, love themselves and make margaritas out of life’s lemons. Is there a recipe for this? I’m not sure I but I know we can figure it out together.
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