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Living With Purpose: Coping With Rejection

9/30/2018

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by Carla Helené Ezell
Coping with rejection by Carla Helené Ezell
We live in a world where success and failure are relative. There are many sides to the truth. One’s perspective plays a larger role in the definition of what is real and what is not more than ever before. And in this altered state of reality, understanding how a “yes” versus a “no” can be murky waters.

Success is not always being told “yes” just as failure does not always evolve around a “ “no”. After all, we cannot control outer stimuli or others’ actions. All we have control over is our reaction or response to the things that happen around us and to us. No matter what one’s lot in life may be, rejection will always be a part of it. But being rejected does not always mean one had failed. The only true failure is giving up. Persistence is therefore, the key to success. What a person does when rejection knocks on the door is what will determine how truly successful they person will be.

Below are five healthy ways to cope with rejection.


1. Recognize it for what it really is. “No” does not always mean no. Sometimes it means, “not yet”. Sometimes it means “no, but...” Learn how to read the situation for what it really is. Is that “no” meant for you or is it some small part of a bigger picture that needs to be brought into better focus with minor adjustments? Are there aspects of the situation that can be changed or compromised to create a “yes”? Ask questions, which leads to number two:

2. Examine the situation. Why did they say “no”? Was it something you said? Was it something you did? Was it something you ate?

Understanding the “why” behind the “no” will open a wealth of other information up to you so you can make well informed decisions and move forward toward achieving the goal you have set for yourself.

3. “It’s not you, it’s me.” Let’s be honest here, this statement is a cop out. It is a classic break-up line used through the ages to supposedly spare the break-upee’s feelings. But when it comes down to it, this statement really is the truth.

A person who uses this excuse to say no is being less than forthcoming with the details despite their reasoning. And if someone refuses to be honest with you, you really cannot build anything of substance with them. Move on.
Being rejected is not the end of the story.
4. Self reflection. Take a long, hard look in the mirror. How much have you changed over the years? Are these good changes or bad changes? What about you has stayed the same? Are you happy with the person you are today? If you are satisfied with the person you are becoming, by all means, rock on. If you feel less than stellar about who you are, you do not have to continue on the path you are on.

The wonderful thing about being alive is that every moment is yours for the taking. Change. Decide in this moment what your new goals are and start heading in that direction. The only “no” here is the one you tell yourself.

5. Let it go. Move on. Don’t let a rejection determine your final outcome. Life happens to us all and sometimes life hands us a rejection. But the beauty of this is that a “no” in one area can lead you to a “yes” to something even greater. Failure is only failure when you refuse to continue. So shake the dust off your feet and keep moving.
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Living With Purpose: Waiting On The Promise

9/23/2018

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By Carla Ezell
Waiting on the promise of God
“Then the Lord told me: ‘I will give you my message in the form of a vision. Write it clearly enough to be read at a glance. At the time I have decided, my words will come true. You can trust what I say about the future. It may take a long time but keep on waiting — it will happen!” Habakkuk 2:2-3 (Common English Version)

God has given you a promise. While you wait for it, do these seven things so you are ready when it arrives:

1. Pray so that you are open to hear it when God shows you what He has planned for you. 1 Thessalonians 5:17, 19-20 says “...never stop praying. Don’t turn away God’s Spirit or ignore prophesies.”

2. Learn His voice. In John 10:27 said “My sheep know my voice...”

Spend time listening and studying the Bible so you recognize when God is talking to you. Learn to recognize His voice over every other voice. Tune in to the frequency of the channel He is using to speak to you. Listen to that channel non-stop so you do not miss the message when it is delivered. This will also help you to tune out other voices that are not from God and might lead you astray. Stay focused on His voice so you do not get distracted and miss out.

3. When the promise is given, write it down. Clearly document it. Do not mince words. Be clear and concise. Write it down so you do not forget it.

Get a journal and write all your prayers, notes and promises in it. Let the entries be visual reminders when you get impatient or bogged down with day to day living. Look back over old entries to remind yourself where you started. Let it also keep your victories fresh in your mind. Remembering how far you’ve come boosts confidence and helps your faith remain strong.

4. Trust God. Proverbs 3:5 says “With all your heart you must trust the Lord and not your own judgement. Always let Him lead you and He will clear the road for you to follow.”

Trust that His Word is true. Believe that He would never lie to you. Have faith so you do not give power to doubt when it tries to creep in. Speak positive words of affirmation over your mind and life to help you stay strong in your faith. There is power in the Word. Speak the word over your life every day to activate God’s authority and diminish the grip of other forces and influences.

5. Wait for it. “...we hope for something we have not seen and we patiently wait for it.” Romans 8:25

Sometimes things take longer than you expect them to. Sometimes God has to work some things out before your promise can actually be fulfilled. Do not give up. Know that God’s timing is perfect and when everything is ready, what He promised you will happen.

6. Get ready. Prepare yourself while you wait. Build your character. Get your finances right. Learn whatever lessons you need to learn. Lay the foundation to build on it with the fulfilled promise.

7. Receive it. When you see your promise start to actually happen, step out on your faith and receive it. Claim it and allow it to be fulfilled.

Sometimes the fulfillment of God’s word in our lives does not look like we expected it to look. It may come in a different package than we thought it would come in or from a different direction than we assumed it would come from. That is okay. We do not know everything God knows. We do not see all sides of the equation like He does. We are down here on the ground and can only see from our point of view but God is everywhere and His viewpoint is vast. He sees angles we can not see. He sees around corners and what is still to come while we can only see the moment we are living right now.

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Living With Purpose: The Strength In Being Vulnerable

9/16/2018

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By Carla Helené
The strength in being vulnerable
Allowing yourself to be vulnerable does not mean you are a victim. In fact, being vulnerable is a sign of the exact opposite. It takes a strong person to show their weaknesses. Here are six ways that vulnerability is actually a sign of great strength and fortitude.

1. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable means you are real. Being vulnerable shows you are strong enough to be your true, authentic self, regardless what others think. When you no longer are concerned with how others see you, you have reached a very high level of independence. Being unbothered by peoples opinion of you is achieving true liberty from peer pressure and and people pleasing.

2. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable means you have a healthy self esteem. Allowing others to see your weaknesses is difficult. Doing so means you are self assured and confident in who you are. This does not mean you have it all together. It simply means you know yourself and trust your instincts enough to let your guard down around others.

3. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable means you have a realistic understanding of who you are. Vulnerability helps us see our own growth points in ways that hiding your weaknesses never will. Once you reveal and accept these areas of your life, you more effectively can work on them.

4. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable means you have strong relationships. Trusting someone else the power to harm you is an earmark of a solid relationship. Weak people do not trust others easily because they still live in their hurts but strong people let go of the poison inside the hurts they have received, allowing true healing to take place.

5. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable means you are not afraid to take risks. Risk taking can pay off big sometimes but it can also inflict great damage. Being willing to put it all on the line means you are strong enough to take the chance of losing something important in hopes of gaining something even better.

6. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable means you are brave. Bravery is not action in the absence of fear, but action despite fear’s presence. Willingly taking off your shield when it could be dangerous to your wellbeing with the hope of creating a positive outcome is one of the bravest things anyone can do. Giving power to someone else means you have great inner strength. Power belongs to those who give it away because it is always theirs to reclaim.

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Living With Purpose: Being Unbothered - 4 Ways To Stop Sweating Small Stuff

9/9/2018

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By Carla Helené Ezell
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Everyone has dealt with it at one point or another. It's part of being innovative. It's part of being successful, no matter the venture. It's part of life. To what am I referring?

Shade.

Sometimes people don't like you. That's okay because many people don't even like themselves. So they transfer their feelings of dissatisfaction onto you, instead of dealing with their own issues that are keeping them from living their best lives. 

So what do you do when someone throws shade your way? Here are four ways to cope:

1. Remember that you were not created to make the world happy. You will never be able to do that anyway because you are not ice cream or pizza, so why bother trying? Other peoples' opinion of you is none of your business. What IS your business is how you handle YOURSELF! That's it!

2. Ignore the haters. Don't sully your good name and energy to set the record straight or even waste time giving the haters a piece of your essence. They are not worth the effort and you really should not have any time to grant them anyway because you are too busy building castles and progressing toward your goals. When you are focused on your goals, you will find that chasing down rumors and trying to correct unworthy peoples' opinions of you is a total waste. 


3. Focus on YOUR tribe. Remember, life is too short and precious to spend it on two faced people. Save your energy for the people who act right toward you behind your back. Those are the people you should be focusing on. Those are the people building kingdoms right alongside you and cheering you on toward your wins. THEY are your tribe.

4. Keep it moving and keep it positive. You will never reach your destination if you stop to throw stones at every dog that barks! Keep your eye on your prize and in the midst of a shady grove, keep the sunshine in your smile bright. Some things are best said with an eye roll or a click of the ignore/block button. Your vibe is worth protecting. Keep it positive and keep it moving.

​What are some ways you deal with shady people? Share in the comments below and lets discuss it. 💋

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Living With Purpose: 10 Ways To Develop Self Discipline

9/2/2018

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By Carla Helené Ezell
Living With Purpose: 10 Ways to Develop Self Discipline
A disciplined life is a balanced life. While we can not always control our circumstances or experiences, what we can control is our responses to the things that happen to us. Below are 10 ways to develop a healthy lifestyle of self discipline.

1. Create good habits. Replace bad habits with positive ones. Start with small actions and intentionally repeat those actions until you no longer have to think about doing them. When you catch yourself doing the behavior you are trying to eliminate, make a mental note of it and change your behavior to the new habit you are creating. Hold yourself accountable for doing these actions on a regular basis. If necessary, enlist an accountability partner to help you stay honest about your progress. It takes time to create new habits but with a little planning and conscious thought, it is completely doable.

2. Eliminate distractions and remove temptations. Declutter your work space. Turn off your social media notifications and mute your phone for a set amount of time. Close all tabs in your browser that you do not need open. Give yourself a time frame where you focus on the specific task at hand. It is easier to focus on one thing for a shorter period of time than it is to try to stay focused for hours upon hours. This exercise will help create a mindset of discipline in every area of your life.

3. Take small breaks at regular intervals. Stopping for a few minutes every hour or so and resetting your frame of mind is an efficient way to accomplish more over longer periods of time. It also trains you to stay on task better as you adjust and come back to what you were doing after a short break. The activity of picking up where you left off builds mental muscle and stamina over time.

4. Stop procrastinating. Figuring out why you are putting a task off until later is the key to changing your procrastinating attitude into an action attitude. The why is a powerful answer to change your behavior. Once you understand why you are doing (or not doing) something, you can address the real problem, not just continue managing the symptoms of the problem. Time magazine online has a detailed article about this. You can read it here.
Developing self discipline
5. Set deliberate goals. If you have read any of my other posts in the Living With Purpose series, you know that this is a theme in the Living With Purpose series and in life in general. Setting goals helps keep you focused on what you want to do.

6. Get organized. Make lists. Start by identifying what you want to do, then create a plan to do it. By breaking your overall goals down into smaller, actionable steps you can accomplish immediately will help you to reach your goals effectively and efficiently.

7. Stay committed to your goals. When we are in the thick of it, it is easy to get discouraged. This is when sheer willpower comes into play. Keep going.

8. Be accountable. Hold yourself responsible for the plan you have created. If you need outside help, enlist it from a trustworthy friend or mentor. Accountability partners are excellent for reminding us of our commitment to change when we are trying to modify our behaviors because you do not want to disappoint them. This is the same concept as AA sponsors. Someone to encourage you along the way and help you stay strong when you want to give up is always a good for morale and achieving success.

9. Reward your wins. When you do something right, give yourself a treat to build your confidence. This action is like putting money in your savings account. Once you see the money begin to build up, you feel more accomplished. This exercise builds security because it visually and mentally reminds you that you have wins under your belt. Rewarding yourself is enjoying the moment in a tangible way.

10. Forgive your failures. The only failure is failing to try again. Take responsibility when you fall short of your goal but do not beat yourself up over it. Cut yourself some slack too. The process of developing self discipline takes time. You can not rush through it. Give yourself space to grow organically so the changes you are making become permanent aspects of your character.

Resources & Further Reading:

Time Health
Psychologists Explain Why You Procrastinate And How To Stop
By Jamie Ducharme

Success.com
How To Eliminate Distractions
By Emma Johnson

DynamicCatholic.com
The Power If A Good Habit
By Rebecca Vodola

Lifehack.org
10 Ways To Remove The Distractions At Work That Keep You From Doing The Beat At Work
By Sylwia Rytarowska

Life Designer University
How To Set Intentional Smart Goals
By Janelle Brown

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    My name is Carla Helené. I am a cheeky naturalista, serial entrepreneur, speaker, educator and self love advocate who encourages women to embrace their truth, love themselves and make margaritas out of life’s lemons. Is there a recipe for this? I’m not sure I but I know we can figure it out together. ​​
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